I want to raise my children to have strong hope and faith in Allah yet fear Allah's punishment. I want them to have good Muslim character and manners, to become teachers and offer guidance to their own family, to enjoin others to do good and forbid evil. Of course, I still make du'a for my children to be successful in the dunya but even more so for the akhirah. I am constantly remind myself of this when I feel the frustrations of educating my children. Allah has entrusted me with my children. They are my flock, my responsibility. I couldn't possibly pass them to someone else to take on this responsibility for me. I'm not saying that those who send their children to public school are merely passing on their children and releasing all responsibility, but I know for sure that when any one of us, let alone a child, spends 40+ hours with anyone, we better believe that we will be influenced by this person as the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam told us about the seller of musk, subhanAllah. To me, sending my children to public school is like gambling. You will never know the end result until it happens and when it does, it may be too late to get your money back!
Perhaps all this is innate and I'm just protective because I'm a mother. Maybe because I'm a Muslim mother but definitely because I grew up in the public school system and I was once a lost, misguided soul. Bad combination I would say. Alhamdulillah for Allah's Guidance!
Wellllllll, with all this rambling, what I wanted to really do is share with you this video. My eldest is 10 and I have never studied Tarbiyah in Islam. I think I've always had a good idea of tarbiyah--cultivating the love for Islam in our children throughout our daily life, but I never actually studied it. Just recently, I have taken on a role as part of the administration of our local Islamic Sunday School, Alhamdulillah. So I have all these great teacher workshop ideas and then I think...tarbiyah. I have to learn this to implement it and teach it. So, as I'm doing my own research, I realize that I should've studied this a long time ago....like when I had one child and not four LOL. Every parent should know and understand tarbiyah in raising our children, inshaAllah. May Allah aid us and guide us with the knowledge to teach and raise our children firmly upon the Qur'an and Sunnah and what is pleasing to Him. Ameen!
Please watch this video. MashaAllah, this sister has some valid points that is making me reconsider at 4 in the morning some of my parenting strategies! YIKES!! Astaghfirullah!!